REVIEWED BY: Marguerite Zelle
MY RECOMMENDATION: YES
AMAZON SUBSCRIPTION LINK: Life After Code, by Rajesh Setty
WEB ADDRESS: http://www.rajeshsetty.com/blog
BLOG DESCRIPTION: Thoughts on Entrepreneurship, Leadership, Creativity, Innovation and Living a Life Beyond Code
MY REVIEW: Rajesh Setty is an entrepreneur who seeks to help other people with their entrepreneurship. But he's much more than that. He's a postive thinker, and a positive speaker, and attempts to spread happiness and positive thought to his readers.
I really enjoyed his blog, he's got some fascinating things to say. Check it out - I think you'll enjoy it.
Why MOST smart people are better at solving other people’s problems…
By Rajesh Setty on Tue 10 Aug 2010, 12:25 PM - 4 Comments and 247 Reactions
And, not their own problems.
I am sure you have seen them and may be you are one of them. Smart people who can solve other people’s problems very easily but they can’t solve their own problems. As my friend Stuart Scott would say, most people have brilliant “outsight” and all they lack is some “insight.”
What is it that makes it hard to solve one’s own problems. It is one thing if they don’t have capacity to solve those problems – we are not talking about that category of people. We are talking about people who have demonstrated that they can solve those problems when they are presented by other people. The mystery is what happens when these problems show up in their own lives.
The dilemma above was the quest of my ongoing mini-research. Finally I think I have some findings that might shed some light on the topic.
First some background information:
Problems are part of life. In fact, in some way, they are life. It is how you look at those problems that makes a difference. Sometimes not getting that first sale is a problem. The same problem can be looked at as a challenge or even an opportunity to grow and learn. Whatever way you look at it, to overcome what you are faced with, you need a few things. To start with you need the skillsets to handle it, you need to resources like time to handle it and sometimes you need a lot of people who are willing to help you overcome it.
What is also common is that every problem comes with constraints that put some boundaries on how you can handle the problem.
Now, let us look at the two scenarios:
1. Smart person solving other’s problems
When a problem gets presented, not all the constraints associated with that problem get presented. May be the person having the problem has a confidence or a self-esteem problem. May be he has a family member that’s not doing that well. May be he has a knee pain. But when he presents the problem at hand, he may not list out all the constraints that surround him or the problem. So the smart person listening to this problem has a larger canvas to paint a solution. The smart person operates sees less number of constraints than the person who is facing the problem – makes the problem look a bit easier.
2. Smart person solving his or her own problem
When a problem shows up in the life of a smart person, he does not see just that problem but a problem and himself/herself surrounded by all the constraints that he or she is operating with. The problem looks way more complicated when presented with all the constraints than as a standalone problem. The smart person has the same canvas to paint a solution but the canvas is torn in places ( constraints ) and is dirty in a few other places (more constraints) – suddenly making the problem way more complicated to handle.
So, now comes to some solutions for this dilemma.
If you are a smart person who is facing this problem, what can you do?
Here are some places to start:
1. Stop over-analyzing your constraints: Most constraints grow bigger than natural in your mind. Your confidence problem may not be as big as you think and your public speaking skills may not be as bad as you think.
2. Get help: Yes, you know that if you think long and hard, you can solve the problem yourself but if you can be humble and go to someone that you trust, they will see the problems without all the baggage that you are carrying. Even if it means paying that expert, it is well worth it to get that solved.
3. Change your relationship with failure: Smart people rarely want to fail. If you have a chronic fear of failure, you may end up not taking ANY action. Excellence sometimes requires you to be on the edge and edges are not very safe.
--Why MOST smart people are better at solving other people’s problems…
--Gatecrashing into someone’s heart…
--Mini Saga Workshop and Mini Saga #58 – Karma
--Ways to Distinguish Yourself #211 – Beware of Drama
--Beating the odds
Check out the following blogs:
Seaborn: Oceanography Blog
Star Trek Report: Space Sciences
Volcano Seven: Treasure and Treasure Hunters
Rush Limbaugh Report